Category: Mindset

Why We Don’t Change What We Can Change

Have you ever found yourself in a situation you didn’t want to be in? If you’re over the age of 7, the answer, I’m guessing, is yes. As a therapist, I often meet people in moments of conflict. Something in their life isn’t working, but they don’t know how to get out of it; they…


It’s a Battlefield: Addiction, Self-Control, and Moderation

Addiction usually brings to mind the abuse of alcohol or drugs. Some people are also addicted to smoking, gambling, or pornography. Those who are free of these practices may feel a bit superior to friends or family members who get drunk every night or who lose their home to pay their gambling debts. We may…


Can Gardening Make You Happier?

Years ago when we had a big yard, thumbing through gardening catalogs was one way I got through the long Minnesota winters. I dreamed about what I’d plant when the weather warmed up and the ground thawed. I’d look at unusual plants, early bloomers, late bloomers, heirloom tomatoes, and whatever else caught my attention in…


15 Things You Should Give up to Be Happy

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress, and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no…


Our Essential Need for Novelty

Have you ever wondered why “out of the ordinary” days stick with you the most? Maybe it was the day you met a lifelong friend, the moment you set your eyes on a beautiful landscape in a new country, or the birth of a child. When we enjoy novel experiences such as these, research shows…


Finding Balance in the Chaos

When we’re hit with uncertainty either suddenly or in large amounts, it can throw us off. We can get frustrated, overwhelmed, stressed, and discouraged. This is normal, and there’s nothing wrong with it. However, it’s my belief that we can train ourselves to stay more balanced when things get chaotic and stay level-headed and calm,…


How to Gamify Your Health

I know people who can spend hours per day playing video games. The activities they do in their virtual world are similar to jobs that exist in the real world. They build cities, solve problems, and hunt for opportunities—all without getting paid or needing external motivation. I’ve wondered what it is about games that make…


A Life Coach’s Personal Playbook

Ignore your oppressive to-do list, life coach Kristen Glosserman says. Replace it with a shorter, more powerful and encouraging “do list” each day. Make one of the items on it your “commit”: If you accomplish nothing else, at the end of the day you’ll have completed this commitment. Make it something you’ve been avoiding, and…


Living in a Chaotic World: How to Keep Anxiety at Bay

Ella Fitzgerald sang that “into each life some rain must fall,” but it has felt like torrents of grief have fallen upon us in recent months or years. We all experience hardships and stress, and we are all very well-acquainted with that pit that forms in our stomach when nervousness takes hold. Many of us…


Use Story to Change Your Life

Most of us don’t realize how powerful stories are in our lives. We don’t even notice that we’re very often telling ourselves a story and that these stories shape everything we believe about our reality. For example, the stories you tell yourself is the reason you feel: Resentment toward a loved one or coworker Guilty…